Breaking Wedding Speech Traditions: Anyone Can Toast the Happy Couple w/ DJ ESG AKA Eric Scott Gold

What's up, guys? Dj ESG on its wedding advice, and today I'm talking about who really needs to do the toasts. Well, a lot of times in the past it's been the best man in the made of honor. But younger millennials, gen Z's, everybody's not always a public speaker. So I'm seeing a new trend where people are turning to their bridal parties and being like yo who wants to give the speech Doesn't matter who does it. Somebody decide who wants to give the speech. We only have this amount of time pick, do it for everybody, y'all choose. If the best man wants to do it, great. If the groom's outgoing, there's a strong chance that the best man is not as outgoing as the groom because opposite's attract. So you ever seen somebody give a toast and their hands shaking like and the paper's going? You can hear it through the microphone. Well, that's some kind of stuff where you're like, okay, he's not comfortable, but he's reading it because he felt forced to, because he was asked to be the best man and then told to do a toast. You don't have to do that. These days you can ask an entire bridal party listen, who wants to give the toast, who's comfortable giving the toast? That way you don't put your best man in made of honor literally at the forefront of oh, I have to do it Now.

A lot of times girls will do it and they're okay with it and they'll figure out a way, but guys aren't as great of positive speakers as some of the girls are who I've met at these weddings. And it's just the fact that they don't put enough time and effort into putting it together and preparing the speech that by the time they get to the point where they're gonna read the speech, they have nothing. You ever seen girls pull out pages of information and guys are like, uh, I'm winging it, that's why? Because they don't put effort into it. You know, it's just the way a guy is. Girls will spend hours and hours and hours on their speeches and guys are like, uh, I put it together last night. So ask anybody, not just the best man. Just say who wants to give the speech and if the best man says yes, great, let him do it. That way you're not putting anybody on the spot and you're letting everybody choose and the person that's the most outgoing is gonna be the one that's gonna give the speech and be the most comfortable standing up there. It's fantastic, fucking advice. It is. It's good advice, and I've seen some of the best speeches over the last two years come from people that weren't the made of honor and the best man, because they were okay and comfortable being up there and speaking publicly and they included all the rest of the groomsmen and all the rest of the bridesmaids into the speech and it was flawless. It was great. You know, think about that. It's a new trend. You don't have to forcibly put it on the made of honor and the best man, especially if it's not their thing to do that. Just keep that in the back of your head.

I have some cool things that I found from speeches. I wanted to share a couple with you. Here's a couple over the years that I thought were really, really good, and most of them didn't even come from the best man. So check this out. I was the best man at my friend's wedding. When it came time for my speech, I pulled out my pocket and began reading about what a wonderful husband he was going to be, how he was loyal, handsome, kind, how he was loved by everyone. Then I squinted at the paper, stumbled a little over the words, turned to him, handed him the paper and now I can't read your handwriting, bro. I brought the fucking house down. The groom had a lazy eye and said I knew the first time I laid an eye on you that I loved. You Can't remember where I heard this.

Me and a groom have been friends for a long time, but he had some trouble finding a best man. He first asked the richest friend to be the best man, and he said no. Then he asked his funniest friend to be the best man, and he said no. Then he asked the best looking friend to be the best man, and even he said no. Then he asked me and if I turned him down three times, I couldn't refuse again. I had to be the best man. Hi, I'm stew. Being asked to serve as the best man is a bit like being asked to make love to the queen. It's an incredible honor, but no one wants to do it. Ian said that I did a good job tonight. I could be the best man at his next wedding.

Part two my brother was the best man at a friend's wedding. His quote at the end was I'd like to give you relationship advice, but what do I know? I'm single and have a cat. That's pretty funny. My sister got married at a small men and Ike community. The groom's best man, Josh, was black. Josh started on a speech by saying I'm Josh, the one you've all been staring at all day. Everybody laughs so hard. That's fucking funny. And I'll leave you with one more. And now that you're a married man, I think we should make an agreement I'll stop hitting on your sister if you stop hitting on my mom. Groom shouts out of his seat and yells no chance in hell.

So listen, get somebody with a sense of humor, even if it's not your best man or your maid of honor. You know what I mean. Ask anybody. Ask anybody in your bridal party. Nowadays you're allowed to do that. I'm telling you. It's open, it's honest, it's real, and you don't have to put somebody on the spot who's uncomfortable doing it, cause I'll tell you this right now my best man was uncomfortable doing it. He said no, I literally had nobody giving a speech and I didn't want to ask anybody else. One of the groomsmen stepped up, gave the speech. It was funny, it was great, perfect Done deal. Listen, it's great advice. Take it or leave it. I'm ESG. Peace, love and God above it.