Maid of Honor Speech Realness: Ditching Platitudes for Show-Stopping Words with DJ ESG

What's up guys? DJ ESG season seven, honest wedding advice. And this season, this time around, I'm taking vlogs from around the world, and I'm dissecting them down to my thoughts. And telling you what you need to hear, not what you wanna hear, what I mean by that. A lot of people say, alright, here. Here's what I'm writing down on paper. Here's what I'm given brides. Here's what I'm giving the grooms or couples, and this is what it is. You know, it's like, no. Stop telling people what they want to hear. Tell them what they need to hear. You all this, yes, yes, yes, yes, listening them to death is what's causing this industry to take a shit. So let's go. Let's go. Ready? When giving a date of speech. It's important to speak from the heart and share meaningful anecdotes and sentiments about the bride. Well, yeah, I would think that's a gift. I would think that, yeah, you walk up there and you say nice things about the bride, and that's pretty much where you need to be. Why would you say anything stupid? Here are some key elements you might include. Introduce yourself in your relationship with ride. Well, that's why when I walk up on the microphone, I really don't tell anybody who these people are that are talking because I know the first line of their sentence is, hi. I'm Sarah, and I'm the bride's sister. What's the point of me saying three seconds earlier? This is Sarah. This is the bride's sister who's just gonna say the genty of three seconds after that express the gratitude for being chosen as the maid of honor. Well, yes. That would be very nice of you to say thank you to acknowledge the fact that you were chosen over either one other person or six other people. Whatever that reasoning may have been, personal anecdotes. Share stories or memories that highlight the special vibe you share with the bride. No. You do not wanna share stories in front of all these people that don't know the story or weren't there when the story happened. If it's something that everybody can relate to, that's one thing. But something that happened in the sixth grade hallway between you and little Tony Mullens, that's nothing that anybody needs to be aware of because nobody knows what you're talking about. It's like people have conversations at a dinner table and they're seven people or eight people and only two people are talking and the other six are like, what's going on? Because they have no clue what you're talking about. No. Don't do that. Don't do that at all. Focus on positive and heartfelt moments that showcase her character, kindness, and humor. That's sweet. Say some nice things about your friend or cousin or family member. You know, but isn't that a given? What are you gonna trash her? Come on. Praise and compliments. Talking about the qualities that make the bride exceptional channel. Well, I'll talk about how beautiful she is, and how wonderful she loves, and how amazing she is today, and the character, and everything that leads up to her personality, her smart, Yes. You can say all those things. Absolutely. Highlight her strengths, achievements, and impact she had on your life and others around her. This is where people drag out their speeches where they start going on and on. And on on about everything in life that nobody understands or nobody needs to know about. You say a couple nice things, very vague, very open that everybody almost like an award speech and you go from there. You don't have to talk about in detail every single thing that happened between the two of you growing up and everything's in high school or college because basically nobody else was there to understand what you're talking about. So it's kind of a conversation between two people in front of a hundred and fifty who were like, that's what makes a bad movie, a bad movie. Don't know what's going on and you can't follow the dialogue. Knowledge the groom. Okay. That's up to you. Welcome the groom to your life and express happiest for the couple. If you're really interested in the groom or if it's too brides or if it's too groom and you're really interested in saying some nice things about the other half of the equation, please, by all means do so. It's something nice about their parents too. You know, I see a lot of times, maids of honor. Just forget to talk about the groom's parents or the groom family. They just say, hey, the groom is great. Done. Always remember in that speech, just acknowledge everybody. You don't have to acknowledge individual people, but just throw it out there so that way at least you're covered. Share any positive experiences you've had with to groom and commend him for his love and support to the bride. Now did you just laugh at that? Did you just LOL that? A lot of people say to me, he's just an oddball, he's just a character. Well, then say that. Say he's just a weird dude. I mean, some guys are just weird dude. You know, and some guys are normal. Like, I'm a weird dude. My wife sat there in front of me during our vows and she said very nice things and then I flipped it on. That was just very strange. You could say whatever you want, but, you know, it can be funny, it can be serious. Get to the point, get out of it. Well wishes. All for your heartfelt congratulations and best wishes for the future get it. I would think that would be a given too, but, yes, cut that out of the way. Maybe do a one liner on it. You know, if you've been married yourself, sharing advice or wisdom that you think would work, if you haven't been married, be quiet. Because they understand why you're not married. If you're not old enough yet, it's just not your thing. And then in closing end with a heartfelt toast to the couple raising the glass of it, love and happiness. Yeah. That's cool. You don't have to both do it. You know, one of you pick whoever's doing the speeches, say, listen. At the end of the speeches, you do the glass razor, you do this because you don't have that or four different people raise a glass at the end of a speech for their brides or the grooms or the bride and groom with a couple. One person can do it for everybody. Express your love and support for them as they begin this new chapter in their lives. If you don't have love and support to give them what the fuck you doing there if they're wedding and why you party the bridal party. So Yeah. Definitely do that. That'd be great. At the end of the day to keep your speech sincere, concise and appropriate for the occasions. Be clearly and confidently, and don't forget to breathe and take your time. Most importantly, let your love and affection for the bride and groom shine through in your words. Five minutes or less, don't run on. Don't get hammered before you do it. And trust me, if you write something down and you have it, even if at the moment you don't want to use it, at least keep it out so you don't go off track and start talking about things that make no sense. This is how speeches run on and run on and run on and run on. Short, simple, Sweet. Fuck. Trust me. It's great advice. I'm d j e s g p slum and got a blah blah blah blah.